noun – refusal to accept any standard short of perfection
My sister and I were talking the other day about…well about everything, because that’s what sisters do, and I said something that rang the bell!
You know, the one that rings when Holy Spirit says, “Write it down.”
Yes, that one. Then, this morning I saw a post on social media about perfectionists and I immediately said, “Yes, Lord, I hear You.”
We are going to think back on our favorite sisters in the Bible, you know the ones…
Mary and Martha, sisters of Jesus’ friend Lazarus. You can read about them here, if necessary.
Now, tell me who was the perfectionist? Mary or Martha? My answer is teetering between the two.
Mary seems “the perfect woman,” she invites Jesus in and she just sits at His feet and listens to Him tell her all about what’s been going on. And, if you take the time to read Luke 10 in its entirety? A lot has been going on.
Back to the girls
Back to M and M. Mary is hearing all the latest news from the Son of Man and Martha is sweating her behind off trying to get lunch on the table. She is probably stirring broth, chopping herbs, baking some bread, and perhaps seering freshly butchered lamb chops over the hot coals. Not only the food prep – but if Martha is like most women she is setting the table, “just so.” Perhaps fresh flowers from the field, taking out the best hand-woven serviettes and organizing the utensils.
Martha is “the busy woman.” And, she is letting everyone know how hard she is working.
Lord, would You puhleeeeeeeze tell my sister to help me in here already?
Who do you pick?
You know the rest of the story, so now tell me – who is the perfectionist?
My pick goes to Martha.
Busy. Busy. Strive. Strive.
Do you want to know how I know? Because I was her for years. And, it wore me out and made me angry – two things I do not need in my life: tiredness and anger. They make me some kind of ugh-ly.
How to balance the work
I’m old enough to remember Kenny Rogers singing this song: Know when to hold them. Know when to fold them. Know when to walk away. Know when to run.
Know your priorities and know your schedule. Know when to hold, fold, walk, and run!
In all fairness, Martha and Mary didn’t know Jesus was going to drop in – He didn’t call ahead. But, Mary just dropped everything and sat. Martha, like most of us, was thinking, “What are we going to eat!”
What could Martha have done differently?
Lord, it’s so good to see you, come in and tell us everything that is going on! Make yourself comfortable – I am going to quickly boil some water for tea and bring out yesterday’s bread and curds. I’ll be just a sec!
Now, to put it in perspective
Do the thing.
Write the story.
Post the blog.
Take the picture.
Bake the cake.
Invite the neighbor.
Swing the kids (yes it’s 95 degrees out and you just washed your hair).
Walk the dog (don’t worry the neighbors walk theirs in Michael Kor outfits and matching shoes).
And, always remember the wise words of The Nester…
It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful!
Until next time…
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