The Good, The Bad, The Ugly!
I am a much better Mimz (Grandma) than I was a Mom. That is my true confession.
Don’t get me wrong – I was attentive, caring, engaged, and present for my three. Even as a single Mom I was all those traits; however, I went “on tour” for several years after a devastating, unexpected divorce from my first husband and father of my trio. No need to go into the gory details as those years were placed at the foot of the cross years ago and I’ve been forgiven and set free!
The above photo is the most recent of Hannah, Simon, and me and it was taken in 2019. Life has drastically changed since that time. Our lives are now separated by distance – but only by miles. I stay in touch with my now-adult grands. Hannah just turned 26 and Simon will leave the teens behind in May. They are grown up. And as they say…
Adulting is hard!
It Hit Me
Last weekend, as I sat in our warm truck while Lowell metal detected a playground, I began thinking what exactly did I teach, if anything, to Hannah and Simon in all our years together. We were fully-committed and fully-present grandparents all of both their lives. These two human beings have our complete hearts and devotion – in common English?
We adore them!
Inquiring Minds Want (Need) To Know
So, off went the text. “Will you please provide to me a list of the most important ten things you learned from me? I want to write a blogpost.” In true Hannah style I had her list by the end of the day. Simon needed time. So, I gave him to the end of the week. On Friday I texted him, “Your assignment is due.” His response was heartfelt – “I’ve worked 12 hour days all week, Mimz, please give me more time.”
Grace is always the answer, amen? This afternoon is deadline and I’m hoping to receive his list any moment!
Do It Afraid
Pray without ceasing.
It is never wrong to do right.
Faturdays (cheat day – eat healthy all week).
Hurt people, hurt people.
Always shake your clothes when you take them out of the washer and place in the dryer.
Speak the truth in love.
No responsibility? No opinion.
Always let the natural light in (open the blinds).
You can make anything look cute (even the dumpiest place can be made pretty, “paint is cheap” as her Great Great Grandma Emily used to tell me).
I LOVE her list.
I expected a few of her things but some are definitely a surprise. She listened well and learned much!
Simon (he made deadline!!!)
How to make a good cup of tea.
How to enjoy a book.
How to look at the positive side of things.
How to understand that “all things happen for a reason.”
I remember cold, rainy days with Mimz were the best days.
How to enjoy and appreciate the simple things of life.
How to write one sentence and turn it into a paragraph. (Have we a writer in our future!?)
You made improper grammar become a very big pet peeve of mine.
Mimz can be mean but always fair.
If and when I forget my Social Security number, I can just call Mimz.
I LOVE his list and laughed and laughed because each one addresses a specific time in our past!
To Sum It All Up
These two lists are as different as our two grands are. They sometimes contend to whom is my favorite – but how can a Grandmother have a favorite when they are both so awesome and endearing. So I always say back to them:
Hannah, you’re my favorite grand-daughter.
Simon, you’re my favorite grand-son.
God certainly had a plan, amen? If there are more grandchildren in our future I might have a conundrum on my hands! But, as God already has the future in-hand I’ll trust Him to figure it all out!
How blessed we are!
With Hope & Kindness,
Share with me YOUR favorite grandchild memory!