Making the Choice
Last week here on the main page I shared about “almost” having an abortion in 1977. Thank you for the generous and kind comments. I know there are some whose almost was “I did,” and today I’m sharing two stories of adoption and counsel from a former Pregnancy Care Center Director. I hope it blesses someone in a tangible way.
Nine years before Roe vs Wade, in 1964, I graduated from high school. I was free and life was great; however, it quickly changed. I was 17-1/2 years old, in love, and pregnant. A dear friend insisted I go to a doctor to confirm my fear. It was confirmed. Abortion was not legal in 1964, and, quite frankly, I didn’t even know what the term meant. The doctor did and stated, “we can perform a D&C and clean out the cervix area.” I asked him what that would do to my pregnancy. “Well, it will “take care” of it.” Somehow, I knew this was not right, said NO, and even thanked him.
October, I turned 18 and December 3, 1964, I gave birth to a little girl in Tallahassee, Florida. I named her Marsha Lynne and I placed her for adoption.
Peggy’s Jeremiah 29.11
My Jeremiah 29.11 began in 1998, when I was appointed Director of the Pregnancy Care Center in Jefferson, North Carolina. We dealt with many issues, including: single parenting, adoption, and abortion. I was learning, first-hand, the pain of abortion. We started a Forgiven and Set Free class, an abortion healing study by Linda Cochrane, study can be found here. One of the things I learned through teaching was the question most mothers asked me, “how do I stop the baby crying in my head?”
Our Mom’s would pray and God, in His Fatherliness, answered every single time with a dream of seeing their baby in the Fields of Heaven. They would see their baby, two-years old, barefoot and beautiful, in a huge field of flowers.
Fields of Heaven by Joyce Mauer
We also encouraged Mom’s to name their babies. There is a wonderful story by Frank Peretti, called Tilly, and is a source of encouragement for women who need to heal.
Rachel’s Vineyard is a retreat for hurting women.
For an unplanned pregnancy as a believer in Christ, we have TWO choices: we parent or we place our babies for adoption. There are no other options because it is a BABY! For adoption information, Christian Adoption Services in Matthews, North Carolina, is an organization with a loving, caring, and helpful staff who will be with you through it all and they will never condemn – they will only love you and your baby.
P.S. from Peggy: My “baby” is over-50 now and we aren’t only Mom and daughter, but we are good friends!
In 1965, at almost 17 I gave birth, and placed my Wendy for adoption, at our family’s priest’s suggestion. Wendy was placed with the most wonderful Christian people to raise. They did an exceptional job and I am proud of the woman she has become and so glad my parents didn’t believe in abortion. So glad you shared this with so many that may be thinking of aborting. What joy that child will bring into their lives. You will have made such a difference.
1.800.712.HELP (4357) Heartbeat International Hotline
Pregnancy Decision Line 855.334.8085
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